3rdgen, I sent you a PM.
LoisLane
i have had to remove my rant because hubby doesn't want the jw realatives to retaliate again..
3rdgen, I sent you a PM.
LoisLane
in january my wife separated from me, because she views me as an apostate (to make the story short).. at that time the elders explained to us, that the bible doesn't approve of such a separation.
i heard from my mother in law, that my wife finally wants to divorce.
(when i think of how my wife treated me the last year i actually want a divorce too).. now my question to you:.
Daniel1555... If my ex said that, wow, he WAS human after all. He was a psychopath. He had no feelings.
To answer your question, if my ex was kind and gentlemanly to me, decades ago, and let me be free, I could have spent my life smiling and being happy because I was happy. Instead, I spent my life with a plastic smile, pretending I was married to the most wonderful man in the world. I could not have coped with the reality otherwise.
-----> If my ex wanted to pretend he had done the deed with someone else, who am I to question?
I have asked my Talk Therapist what should I say if people want to know a "bit" about my history?
She said, "You two tried to make it work, it didn't, so you got divorced" Easy pisey . End of subject.
I said "But I was married for 40 years. How does that sentence compute that we "tried" to make it work... and it didn't?"
She said, " LoisLane , you are the only one that knows you were married to one person for 40 years. Other people will think you probably have been married several times. Nothing new about that".
OK. Case closed.
in january my wife separated from me, because she views me as an apostate (to make the story short).. at that time the elders explained to us, that the bible doesn't approve of such a separation.
i heard from my mother in law, that my wife finally wants to divorce.
(when i think of how my wife treated me the last year i actually want a divorce too).. now my question to you:.
Those are the words my Elder of 40 years, said after I outed him at our home to 2 elder's.
Together we walked the elder's to our door.
After the door closed, and gave the men time to walk away, my ex turned to me and said,
"There will be consequences". (LOL -----> now)
My words to him, thought of today, as I am out of his firing line are, "GO TO HELL SUPREME ASSHOLE!!!
He was asexual. He won't be committing a sexual act to free me.
I wanted to be good and live in paradise so bad, that I would not commit a JW sin to free myself.
Now, I understand we all have just this life and we are the ones in the driver's seat. Not WT.
-----> My 2 cents. What happens to you and your wife all depends on your Elders. If they like you, they will give you a Get Out of WT Jail Free card, even several... What the heck?
If they do not like you they will DF you in a New York minute.
LoisLane
I am a bit sorry that I did a rant and made my post more about me than you, but hey this is my therapy playground too. lol
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not loudly, but just so your table could hear?.
ll.
A number of times we would have the DO or CO out at a restaurant with us.
When my ex would defer to them to say prayer , almost always, they would say,
"Out in public, we each say our own silent prayer". lol
They didn't want to look weird, either! lol
Oh, come on somebody!
Who lives around me?
Let's go out for dinner, doesn't matter how many people join us,
and say prayer , out loud, lol
And I'll say hallelujah at the end... Real loud.
Oh... Let's all wear any old JW convention badge, so we can give all the credit to WT... lol
But let's not stiff the waiter. That is not nice.
LL
being 4th generation, i realize that am socially stunted, in regard to those that are not jws.
i am forging ahead and endeavoring to build a life outside of jw's.
i am trying as i can to socialize my child to make friends and be a normal kid.
We had a swimming pool in our back yard. The rules were if you went out in service in the morning, you were invited over for the afternoon.
We had lots of fun, lots of BBQ's, lots of parties. The only part I didn't like, was when I was a little girl, and people would come over and walk around the pool and gaze into the water and say, "But how safe is the water for children?" I never clicked in that this was my mom's cue she was waiting for to push me into the deep end, even in winter, unheated water, fully clothed, with leather shoes on. I would struggle to the top and make my way out, smiling of course, anything else was not acceptable. I guess the part I didn't hear was her probably telling the parents, as I was trying not to drown in sometimes freezing water, "Always make sure your children know how to swim... "
My 8th grade class was invited over. My dad helped the boys to make old fashioned crank style , ice cream.
I don't know how long your outdoor swimming season is but I wish you joy, fun and lots of happy memories.
I would definitely vote yes for a swimming pool.
LoisLane
i was alone at the new branch construction site in ticuantepe (nicaragua).
everybody had taken off for a weekend assembly in the capital and it was my turn to have watchman duty and guard the site.
we had dogs and i only had to walk around the perimeters and check all the gates and entrances.. suddenly a young boy appeared at the main gate, breathless and visibly nervous.
BluePill2... Your last paragraph, ^^^^^ yes, we have all seen that.
I wonder what the normal people think of JW's? The dead person's work mates and neighbors that come, besides relatives that are not JW and hear really, nothing said about the dead one.
Looking back at those unemotional informercial memorials/funerals, how did WT/JW/GB treat us? They treated us like we were just good for nothing slaves.
Dead you say ? Too bad. Recruit another person we can turn into our free labor drone's.
LoisLane
PS BluePill2... Did you realize we 'signed" up at the same time? (OK, 4 days apart). lol
I am recuperating, still, from all the evilness , and all the silly wack a doodle changes that were enforced and "you have to's" of the WT/JW/GB.
I am draining them out of my mind.
I wish you well in the journey of your life.
dear friends.
i never was a dub.
i am not a qualified lawyer or accountant.
Before the Tech Stock bubble, I was aware that you could buy yourself an established Bank anywhere in the world, many were already set up, to own outright or to possibly launder money. The
older the established Bank was, the more valuable it was.
I am curious to know how many Banks does Watch Tower own, with who knows who's name is on it, with how many millions, billions in it?
LL
just read a post on jwsurvey about the new donation arrangement.
congregations are to pledge a monthly amount to be sent to the society to fund the building of assembly halls and kingdom halls.
congregations who already have a loan from the society will no longer have to pay back the loan but the amount pledged should not be less than the current monthly repayments to the society.
D of S... You are a funny guy. ^^^^^
Your last sentence is just a string of words, that unfortunately, we all know. I want to throw after I read your last sentence.
LoisLane , trying to recover after decades of WT, indoctrination.
i was alone at the new branch construction site in ticuantepe (nicaragua).
everybody had taken off for a weekend assembly in the capital and it was my turn to have watchman duty and guard the site.
we had dogs and i only had to walk around the perimeters and check all the gates and entrances.. suddenly a young boy appeared at the main gate, breathless and visibly nervous.
Everything you said Clarity! ^^^^^
It hasn't been 2 years since I understood that I will die. So much has happened during that time. My sister died 9 months ago. I wake up and I think she is not here anymore to experience this beautiful day. I will never see her again. Her husband still thinks he will see her in the JW belief of a resurrection back to earth. The latest Watchtower of will you be able to marry your loved one again... Is so Watch- tarded !
I so want to have grandchildren. It makes me think what was the point of living? Of the agony? Of the struggle if I do not? To me the point of living means children and grandchildren and love and happiness and family. When you do not have those things, what do you have?
I am sorry for the young 20 year old boy who died. Watch Tower lied to his family and WT lies for their own gains. He is dead and gone.
Everything dies. I am happier to know the real truth. I can take it. It was hard, but not impossible to accept.
I try hard now, not to waste what precious time, counting down, that I have. As a person thinking I was going to live forever, all my desires were put on hold for what I was brainwashed to believe was a higher and nobler cause. Wrong, and I have to live with that.
LL
one of my co workers mother made my 4 year old a blanket with the disney character tinkerbell on it.
as soon as i got it i knew trouble lay ahead.
i wanted to reason with her before my daughter saw it so as not to cause a disruption, but it didn't work out that way.
dogon ... During prayer at the KHall back in the 1970's, I looked down at the boys summertime shirts standing in front of me. The boy's shirts were a print with all Egyptian pagan images on them.
Totally an " untheocratic " pattern! I showed my ex, an Elder. He just shrugged his shoulders.
The father of the boys grew-up to go in the circuit work with his wife. Hi John!
The oldest boy, got his JW girlfriend pregnant. Her uncle was a JW District Overseer. Her Uncle actually came out and married them! Hi Wayne!
LL